What I am wondering is, what does zen tell us about how to deal with these feelings? I personally feel that I am holding back these emotions from taking full control of me. I would imagine that we are really suppose to accept that these feelings are natural and temporary. Is it that we are better off to let them wash over us but not control us or try to force them back to the depths from which they have come? This would seem logical but its easier said then done of course. Does anyone have knowledge they could share?
How about this? How different would your life look if you were not approaching it from a 'damage control' perspective? That is, what if you are not supposed to 'deal with' the feelings at all?
Instead of setting up this against that - enter the feeling-as-part-of-everything with absolutely no resistance. Scratch that, even enter the resistance with no resistance.
Just this. Just this. Just this. No attempt for things to be different - just a genuine curiosity about what is actually there.
Are there problems? Yes, there are problems - but
it is not a problem. Do you understand?
Chet