Originally Posted by
Graceleejenkins
Referring to : "Monks, a statement endowed with five factors is well-spoken, not ill-spoken. It is blameless & unfaulted by knowledgeable people. Which five?
"It is spoken at the right time. It is spoken in truth. It is spoken affectionately. It is spoken beneficially. It is spoken with a mind of good-will."
Ahhh, the crux would seem to me to be "the right time." It may not be the right time to say anything. Gassho, Grace.
Or it may be that you're denying them the gift of an opportunity to broaden their tolerance. Perhaps in assuming they can't handle the truth, you are harming them with your silence.
The precepts are not there to keep us from error, they're there to measure our intentions as much or maybe more than our results. That you have considered their suffering at all means that, whether you make a mistake or not, you are following the precepts, IMHO.
Chet