We live with "what is". Strange as it sounds, our suffering in life is often compounded because we push it away, rather than allow the pain. There is a difference between the pain of loss
, and the pain of punishing oneself further by wishing to be free of the pain of loss
. That is much like being burned by a flame, then fanning and burning oneself again with a flame in protest of the first. Sitting fully and completely with "what is
" means sitting with "our feeling of rejecting what is
" ... for that feeling of rejecting is, itself, "just what is
" in that moment.
And in so doing ... the fire remains, but much of its fuel and fanning is removed.