Now that I’m middle-aged my anger of earlier years has subsided. All those arguments and heated debates were thoroughly engrossing at the time and turned out to be thoroughly pointless. Now it appears to me that there is a relationship between anger and the ego. It is the desire to be right and win the argument that fuels the anger.
It is not that I now avoid conflict at all costs – sometimes it is necessary. But more often than not, open and angry conflict becomes self-fuelled, resolves nothing and is utterly pointless. If there’s one thing that I’ve learned from this practice, it’s that we can have some control over our anger. And we really should spend less time imprisoned by it.
Look. You had the key to the prison door in your hand all along. Open the door and walk through.