I'm tired of teasing this out in my brain, so I decided to throw it out to the forum.

When you perceive a hole in your life there seems to come with it a need to fill that hole. This need leads to attachment behaviors, addiction being the most extreme example, but there are many other lesser examples you can fill in for yourself depending upon whatever holes you perceive in your life. Pondering this I came up with the analogy of box and lid, with box representing the hole in your life and lid representing the need to fill (or at least cap) that hole. But then I thought, wait a minute:
If you have a box, does it need a lid?

Of course, acceptance is the key. But do you accept the box, the lid, or both?