Hi Gloria,
I believe by "lay vows," you mean Jukai. I always write the following to people in ask about Jukai here at Treeleaf:
Hi, thanks to Benjamin Gieseke for his interesting question, which has been my own question for several months, I just didn't know how to express it.
GloriaMeiseiko Today, 09:00 AM1. In what ways do you try and control your life, especially (but not limited to) around illness?
I guess the need for distraction/avoidance
Yes, it is helpful and interesting.
Thank you for doing this [emoji120]
Gassho, Hōzan
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Zazen at the Moment by Moment Hangout
Hey all thanks for joining the sit last night. It was even better when you could hear my bell.
Ryokudo Today, 10:10 AMGassho
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